Well, in my last post I said that 2 decisions were coming up soon. We spent much time in prayer seeking the Lord about whether I should continue teaching full time. I do love so many things about the job, but the reality is that working full time does take time and energy. We carefully weighed out all the pros and cons and asked that the Lord reveal His will for us in this. After weeks and weeks of this, we both felt that it would be best for me to continue teaching in this job that He has called me to. I know that working outside the home is definitely not for every mother, and I am acutely aware of the many sacrifices that are made when a woman does choose to work outside the home. But I believe that He has equipped me to do this, and I believe that He will fill in the gaps.
I don't care what side of the fence one falls on regarding moms working or not working; the simple fact is that you can't do it all! Something has to give when a mom chooses to take a job that is away from the home for many hours in a day. Here are the biggest sacrifices that I feel personally and that I am working through. I would love any advice on how to make these sacrifices seem not so big!
*Involvement in a women's Bible study. Evening ones just don't fit with my family's schedule.
*Time to invest in friendships. It's hard to stay connected with friends who are stay-at-home mom's since the time that I am free is only on a Saturday morning or possibly a rare evening here or there. That is not the time that they are usually free. Bummer.
*The ability to really sit and visit one on one with each kid, each day. Now this one is something that I believe does not have to be a sacrifice I make. We have a plan of action here to help us (me) be more intentional in changing this. Our plan involves getting rid of T.V. I am not a T.V. addict, but sadly, when I'm tired after a long day at school, T.V. becomes my way to veg out. Come summer, the T.V. will be disconnected. Only movies will be occasionally allowed. Oh, my kids are going to love me for this, right?? Not.
*Keeping up with memory books and photo albums. I can't even write anything descriptive here because this whole topic just plain makes me sick to my stomach!! I need help here!
*Doing things for others. I used to really enjoy helping others out in tangible ways back when I was a stay-at-home mom (man that was a LONG time ago!!). I loved to take a meal to a new mom, or to someone who was sick. I loved to be able to help watch the children of those who were in the midst of a hard time. I loved secretly doing things for others too. Now, I very rarely am able/available to do those things. I either don't have the time or know that I don't have the energy to give to those types of things. I do have some opportunities, but not as much as I'd like.
*Helping Mark with his business. I know that Mark would love it if I could assist in some of the bookkeeping/paperwork side of his business, but there is just no time! He also would love it if I could travel with him once in awhile, but again, no time!
*Time to invest in friendships. It's hard to stay connected with friends who are stay-at-home mom's since the time that I am free is only on a Saturday morning or possibly a rare evening here or there. That is not the time that they are usually free. Bummer.
*The ability to really sit and visit one on one with each kid, each day. Now this one is something that I believe does not have to be a sacrifice I make. We have a plan of action here to help us (me) be more intentional in changing this. Our plan involves getting rid of T.V. I am not a T.V. addict, but sadly, when I'm tired after a long day at school, T.V. becomes my way to veg out. Come summer, the T.V. will be disconnected. Only movies will be occasionally allowed. Oh, my kids are going to love me for this, right?? Not.
*Keeping up with memory books and photo albums. I can't even write anything descriptive here because this whole topic just plain makes me sick to my stomach!! I need help here!
*Doing things for others. I used to really enjoy helping others out in tangible ways back when I was a stay-at-home mom (man that was a LONG time ago!!). I loved to take a meal to a new mom, or to someone who was sick. I loved to be able to help watch the children of those who were in the midst of a hard time. I loved secretly doing things for others too. Now, I very rarely am able/available to do those things. I either don't have the time or know that I don't have the energy to give to those types of things. I do have some opportunities, but not as much as I'd like.
*Helping Mark with his business. I know that Mark would love it if I could assist in some of the bookkeeping/paperwork side of his business, but there is just no time! He also would love it if I could travel with him once in awhile, but again, no time!
Wow, this post is not going how I'd planned! Anyway, I feel confident in our decision, and blessed that even though there are several sacrifices, God piles on the blessings as well. I am blessed that all 3 of my children attend my school and I see all of them each day. We have all the same days off of school, and I am able to know their teachers and friends well. I love our staff and the tremendous things that are happening at our school. God has truly blessed us in huge ways! We just went through our accreditation renewal last month, and it was so amazing to see that come to fruition. We put tons of work into pacing maps, curriculum guides, and many other documents and it paid off! We are a fully accredited school! For you educators out there, you know how important that is and how it boosts the reputation of a school. Thank you Lord!
Finally, the other news that my few readers have been waiting for! We have chosen an agency for our Haitian adoption! I will be announcing the name as soon as we are officially accepted into the program. Our application is waiting to mail as soon as we receive a couple of other bits of information. I should have solid info within a couple of weeks. I would love to share the name, but had better wait until it's official.
That's all for now. Enjoy the long weekend!
Finally, the other news that my few readers have been waiting for! We have chosen an agency for our Haitian adoption! I will be announcing the name as soon as we are officially accepted into the program. Our application is waiting to mail as soon as we receive a couple of other bits of information. I should have solid info within a couple of weeks. I would love to share the name, but had better wait until it's official.
That's all for now. Enjoy the long weekend!
YAY for choosing an agency!! That is a big step!!
ReplyDeleteAs for the working stuff, it is so hard trying to weigh out the pros and cons. We've had that same conversation over and over in our house too... thanks for being vulnerable. I'm glad you got clarification too--especially if you've been wrestling with it for a while, nice to have resolution and have made a decision.